Yesterday the boys were learning about cause and effect and about how it is necessary to listen to and remember what Daddy and Mommy say.
If Mommy tells me not to put my balloon in my mouth, and then I do it, and then she tells me again, and she also tells me that if I put it in my mouth she will take it away and pop it, and then if I go around the corner and put my balloon in my mouth anyway, Mommy will follow me and see me, and then she will pop my balloon.
**If Mommy tells me not to say: I'm MAD! (imagine a deep huffy football voice) and I do it, and she tells me again, and she also tells me that if I say it I won't be able to play in the hose with Joey, and I say it again anyway, she will hear me and I won't be able to play in the hose with Joey.
If Mommy tells me not to put my lips on the back glass where the dog germs are (Ugh! I've been kissed by a dog! I have dog germs! Get hot water! Get some disinfectant! Get some iodine!) and I do it, and then she tells me again, and I do it anyway, I will have to come sit inside for a minute with Mommy while my brother plays without me.
If my Daddy calls me over to remind me of something I forgot, and I refuse to come, and he tells me to come again, and Mommy reminds me to obey with a happy attitude, and I come over with a mad look on my face, THEN I will be in trouble, when originally I just was supposed to come to Daddy and get reminded of something.
If Bam-Bam puts his monkey behind a piece of furniture, and Daddy says not to do it again, or he will not be able to play with his monkey for a while, and then I march over there and stick my phone behind the same piece of furniture, then I won't be able to play with my phone for a while.
The point of all of these things is not to surround our kids with rules. No. What we are doing is teaching our kids to listen and remember when we speak. This is crucial to their future walks with the Lord. They need to practice now how to listen and remember when someone in authority speaks so that they will know how to listen and respond to the Lord.
**We know it is established thought in the fostering community that it is ok for kids to be mad. If this is your viewpoint, then regarding us telling the boys not to say "I'm mad!", just pretend that we don't want them to use the word 'mad'. Pretend we prefer the word 'upset'. This is actually partly correct regarding the terminology.